A meeting with other Finnish girls living in the Netherlands. Within the first half an hour, so many familiar items come up.
X: ".. And have you guys seen, that even in the middle of the winter the small children are not wearing mittens outside?"
Everyone: "Yes, in Finland you would get to hear it immediately if your child is not wearing proper winter gear."
Y: ".. And then - the small kids without helmets biking all over the place, while mom is having also one 1-year old without a helmet on her bike".
I think, regarding the above, a full assimilation to the dutch society might be simply unachievable for foreigners.